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........For some years I've been asked many questions by lots of people and thought it would be good to share my answers here for you to read........
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Monday 2 December 2019

Letting Time Pass

Letting Time Pass - or in layman's terms, be patient.

Dr Claire Weekes used the term Let Time Pass, and this is something you'll have to get used to because nothing you do will make recovery happen any quicker than it wants to.

Being patient is one of the hardest things to do when you have anxiety, because we all want to be well RIGHT NOW.  The thought of having to spend another day feeling wretched is often too much to bear, but sadly this is what you have to do.

I've heard so many people say "I'm sick of all this, I've had enough and I can't wait months to recover".  Well ok, but what are you going to do then?  You have 2 choices - you either wait patiently to recover or you rush off, change your meds, search of Google once again for a quick fix cure (there is none by the way), and charge about in life hoping you'll out run it.  The quickest way to recover is to wait patiently, because the more you chase recovery, the more you get upset and impatient, then the more you'll have to wait because you often end up pushing recovery further away.

I often explain to people about letting time pass, being patient, and I hear "yes I understand it'll take time, though I need to be well for this holiday I've got coming up".  Or, "yes I understand, but I've taken meds for 8 weeks now so shouldn't I be better"?  This is not being patient.  You can't say you understand and in the next breath be questioning the time it takes.  You cannot put a timescale on how long it takes - stop clock watching.

It doesn't matter if you've been ill for 2 months, 2 years or 20 years and it doesn't matter if you're not well by that next holiday, by Christmas or what other important date you've got coming up.  Recovery will take its own time for you - you are unique and recovery will be different for you as it is to the next person.  Theirs might take 3 months and yours might take 9 months, or theirs might take a year and yours 4 months.  Do not compare your recovery timescale to anyone else's.  Theirs is unique for their body and yours is unique for yours.

So ........ 

Let time pass - after all, good things are worth waiting for .....